A scrub in the Valley

Beth
January 23, 2017

pinkyGood morning Folks … today’s star is as pink as a pussy hat and says:

“And so the hand of time will take the fragments of our lives and make out of it life’s remnants, as they fall, a thing of beauty after all.” – Douglas MDouglas Malloch poetalloch

Douglas Malloch (May 5, 1877 – July 2, 1938) was a Michagan-born American poet, writer and lumberman. Michigan was known as a centre of the lumbering industry. He grew up amidst the forest, logging camps, sawmills and lumber yards and became known as the “Lumberman’s poet” both locally and nationally. Funny, I was a tad disappointed with this portrait of a studious man in a nice suit. I blame the hipsters for making me expect a bushy beard and check shirt and maybe an ax or some artisan pickles over his shoulder. But I digress … Douglas is my new poet crush. Here’s a little sample to give us a lift on our first Trump monday …

It’s Fine Today

Sure, this world is full of trouble
I ain’t said it ain’t.
Lord, I’ve had enough and double
Reason for complaint;
Rain and storm have come to fret me,
Skies are often gray;
Ain’t it fine today?

And I guess it is fine today, no? Sure the dog has wee-d FOUR times on the sitting room carpet, construction work outside is breaking my brain, and the showers broken … but the sun is out. I got this pic on my landing … I hope it’s fine for you too. sun

I’ll leave you with another lovely snippet …

If you can’t be a pine on the top of the hill,
Be a scrub in the valley — but be
The best little scrub by the side of the rill;
Be a bush if you can’t be a tree.

xxBeth

Making Whoompie

Beth
January 22, 2017

Happy Sunday All! Today’s China-blue star holds the words of an iconic Chinese sage:

“At the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” – Lao Tzu

bluey blueI have a feeling I’m in good company saying that seeing images of women’s marches from all over the globe (which have added up to the millions) lifted my heart. All those pink hats and the pun-ny posters.Image result for pink pussy hat

bluey blueMy favourite was ‘Hey Mister, keep your tiny hands off my sisters.’

I’m still clearly in the pun zone while considering today’s quote which asks us to listen to ourselves for the answers. And the first thought that came up with a snort was another poster, ‘In your guts, you know he’s nuts.’

laoziLao Tzu lived in the 6th century BC, was a philosopher and the founder of Taoism. He also said, “The sage is guided by what he feels and not by what he sees.” Ergo, get quiet and you’ll hear the answer.

Here he is atop a water buffalo – this beast of burden shows up a lot in Zen imagery too as wild ox or buffalo are notoriously difficult to tame and therefore are a great metaphor for our jumpy minds.

What I’m taking most from both of these quotes is a reminder to trust the old gut. As a constantly guilt-ridden mother and apologising woman, I am soothed by the notion that, ‘I have the answer in the centre of my being.’

Other comfort today (besides a video montage of all the women’s marches) … making whoopie pies with the kids and loving that my 7-year-old calls them whoomping pies.

Anything from you today folks?

XX Beth

Bridges not Walls

Beth
January 21, 2017

spotty blue

Hi All,

The star today says:

“A beautiful thing never gives so much pain as does failing to hear and see it.”– Michelangelo

And what a beautiful thing this was….

It was freezing cold and I was too shy to shout, “Hey Mister, keep your tiny hands off my sister,” but I really enjoyed being around all the peeps who were shouting it all loud and proud.

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In the spirit of art-making since Michelangelo is our sponsor today… This little sculpted piñata Trump made me as happy as any David.

trumpMy kids were a bit baffled as to why ‘everyone is so loud,’ but knew something special was happening – and it felt great being able to walk right down the middle of the busiest street in the land with no cars. I explained we were walking with hundreds of thousands of others all over the world in the name of love. We walked with men dressed as women, with women who held each others’ hands, and with many men dressed as men, children and a few dogs.

And it was a great comfort. I hope you found comforts today too.

xxBeth

Walk like an Egyptian

Beth
January 19, 2017

blueGood Morning All,

“Everybody should have a chance at a breathtaking piece of folly.” – Elizabeth Peters

Allow me to introduce Barbara Mertz aka Elizabeth Peters (one of her noms de plume). I’ve put this photograph in as large as seems reasonable so you could see Barbara’s wonderful face, sitting there by the Pyramids, delighted. She was from Chicago and had a PhD in Egyptology. And a lot of cats.

Just looking at this woman’s joy-filled expression has lifted my Trump inauguration dread. Her philosophies hold the antidote: “…you must have a weakness for weirdos. I do – if you mean people with unorthodox opinions about obscure subjects. They’re so much more interesting than so-called normal people.”( Granted Trump is not a normal person, but you know what she means).

Reading about Barbara fills me with the same comfort and joy I felt when I first walked through the gates of art college (aka an entire tribe of weirdos with unorthodox opinions about obscure subjects.) It’s that feeling when someone snorts at your most oddball joke. I also just love meetinfollyg anyone who’s really passionate about their super specific area of interest, even if the area couldn’t be of less interest to me. For example, I once met a repair man who came to fix a wonky Venetian blind. Boy was I not remotely interested in the inner workings of a Venetian blind, but when this burly man with an Eastern European accent called me over to show me what he was doing, I knew I was watching a poet. He described the way that ball-bearing bit fits onto the handle (bla, bla bla). Of course I still don’t much care about how they work, but his absolute love of his specialty did open my eyes to the engineering wonder of something I had never thought about for one single second. I stayed and watched him fix the joint-thingy. His fingers as light as a surgeon’s. Then he opened his bag, pulled out a soft, folded cloth and lovingly wiped each strand of the blind and unbent some crooked ones. Then he stood back a step to admire the working blind as if he was looking at the Gardens of Versailles. His expression was exactly the same as Barbara’s here at the pyramids.

Barbara asks us to chance ,”A breathtaking piece of folly.” Isn’t that just the best phrase ever? It’s a permission slip to do that silly thing … get a tattoo for your 50th or buy a banana-yellow stationwagon or start learning an instrument you’ll never master … Or? Any of your own follies to add to the jar today? Please tack in to the comment box if so…

As always thanks for stopping by,

xxBeth

 

Not in Kansas

Beth
January 18, 2017

Good morning Folks,

jap starOn this greyest of days, I pulled out this two-tone star: It’s words of comfort for us …

“It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry for.” – Amy Poehler

So after days of seriousness with the wisdom of monks and legendary first-ladies etc., we have a comedienne extraordinaire. Amy Poehler makes me laugh. I’m excited to just learn that we share Newton, Massachusetts as our birthplace. Here’s a pic of Amy in case you can’t put a face to her name…

Image result for amy poehlerThis quote made the place where my ribs meet go all soft. I have been on this planet for over four decades and I still shuffle through my days in a swarm of ‘Sorry.’ It’s so automatic, I even say it to the dogs, constantly. In fact, I’ve said sorry to a blanket when I tugged at it. (Lord). It’s a difficult one to unravel, but something I’m going to try to pay attention to without getting too wound up. Amy has this great way of getting her feminist perspective across without seeming at all sanctimonious…

She also said, “There is an unspoken pact that women are supposed to follow. I am supposed to act like I constantly feel guilty about being away from my kids. (I don’t. I love my job.) Mothers who stay at home at supposed to pretend they’re bored and wish they were doing more corporate things. (They don’t. They love their job.) If we all stick to the plan there will be less blood in the streets.”

Cut to my nine-year-old daughter and me watching a remake of the Wizard of Oz. I was zoning in and out, bored out of my gizzards, until it got to a scene with the Wicked Witch about to slay the golden-tressed Good Witch for god-only-knows-what – then I paid attention. I wondered if the 78 years since the original film was made, had the choices of how to visually depict good witch vs evil witch evolved. And from the scrap I saw, I’m sad to report it had not. I got het-up. I looked at the evil witch with her green skin, her unkempt black hair and hooked nose, and I saw a pack of cliches that still added up to ‘ethnic’ rather than our Aryan blonde, blue-eyed, tiny-waisted good girl.

Poor Jetta (my daughter) as I paused the film here and asked her, “Honey, what messages of ideal and societally accepted beauty do you think this film is giving us?” Sound of crickets. Then me again, “You know we’ve talked about how the media often represents women in very narrowly defined terms.” More crickets. “Well? What do you see?” The poor child just rolled her eyes and said, “Yes, I know. Princesses bad. Can we please unpause the movie?”

I have a lot to learn from Amy. But I will do my very best not to apologise here.

A simple moment of comfort so far today: IMG_0334

xxB

Roses

Beth
January 17, 2017

Good Evening All,

Today’s star also has a star on blacknice presidential nod: “Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

I am a big fan of Eleanor Roosevelt. My mother (who was from Maine) used to quote her whenever she needed a boost as the two women shared a powerhouse nature and being mother to six children. During manys a 1970’s  powercut, my mother would repeat Eleanor’s words, “It’s better to light a candle than curse the darkness.”

What we know about Eleanor: first lady and wife to President Franklin D. Roosevelt (in office for FOUR terms! 1933-1945); famous human rights activist and feminist. What I didn’t know…she had been an exceptionally shy child.

Traumatised no doubt, as the poor tyke lost her mother when she was 8, her little brother when she was 9 and her father the following year. So the thing I’m trying to grasp is where she summoned all her inner resources from. She had inspiring friends that’s for sure – the pilot/explorer Amelia Earhart was a close one. A sense of humour: “I once had a rose named after me and I was very flattered. But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalogue: no good in a bed, but fine up against a wall.” Image result for eleanor roosevelt

The consistent message is that her chutzpah came from the very sadness that eclipsed her early life: “The empathy born of loneliness and loss in her childhood” – being able to feel for others helped to fuel her dedication to the vulnerable.

But how does thinking of Eleanor make me feel? On this day, when I’m tired and I started a new job, heard about a fresh Trump scandal and mopped up (a lot) after a dog with a urinary tract infection – thinking of Eleanor and her goofy smile makes me feel somehow mothered. When the comedian Louis CK spoke about Hillary Clinton pre-election, he said she would be the first mom at the helm of the White House. “A mother—she’s got it,” he continued. “A mother just does it. She feeds you and teaches you. She protects you. She takes care of shit.”

Other comforts today? Homemade granola, my shiny-eyed drawing students, and prepare yourselves for some cheese…you my dear readers and comment-givers. I had a real crisis of confidence about this whole post business and woke up to two of THE most heart-warming comments which truly made me feel a rose was just named after me. Thank you xxB

He had a dream

Beth
January 16, 2017

Hi Folks,

Today’s little pink star says:

“Even if I know that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”– Martin Luther

unfurlI must say today’s quote has given me chills of the best kind. As you can see it’s a Martin Luther line. A nice one, I thought, for the week that’s in it with the dreaded inauguration on Friday – a reminder of the optimistic act of planting even when things are falling apart. And in case we need a refresher, Martin Luther (without the King or Junior) was a German professor of theology, a priest, a monk and the namesake of the Lutherans, and lived over 500 years ago. Here’s an early portrait of his soulful face…

The chills came after I decided to look up why Martin Luther King Junior  was so enamoured with this theologian of yore that he decided to adopt his name, having been christened Michael King. (Turns out it was his Dad’s inspiration, after a Baptist trip to Germany)

The spooky moment was that I just learned that TODAY is Martin Luther King day!!! I mean what are the chances of that?! Over 365 stars in the jar. And so we get to conjure up the grand master of hope from dismal American times on this very week.

Today was a particularly challenging one for me for a bunch of reasons (including a child home sick, forgotten back-pack, a broken sleep thanks to a yapping dog, scraps, and some work crap), but this little moment of serendipity was enough to plant a seed of hope again.

I’ll leave you with a bit more of Martin Luther King Jr, : “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”

XxB

(And hot off the press, my friend Rowan has just shared this gorgeous song/documentary about a girl amongst the pony boys which cheered me up

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Don’t worry, be crappy

Beth
January 15, 2017

Hi All, I hope you had a day of rest. Today’s star is moss green and says:

green“To live a creative life, we must first lose our fear of being wrong.” – Joseph Chilton Pearce

I’ve found it hard to glean much background on Pearce to share with you. I’ve learned that he was born in Pineville, Kentucky in 1926 and died last year. He is famous as an author and lecturer on the rather wooly-sounding topic of ‘human development’ and has a lot to say about how bad he feels technology is for kids and how good play is. He also seems to be a big advocate for allowing kids to just stare in to space without being told to do something productive with their time. I like that last bit very much, having always been a fan of sitting the the backseat, so I could let the world blur past.

I watched an interview of Joseph in his late eighties. In the clip, he’s a curious character – looks about five foot nothing, is wearing a tweed cap and has searingly focused blue eyes. He’s sitting on a beige couch, talking about his mystical experiences (including spoon-bending) and opinions of quantum physics. I fell down the rabbithole there for about an hour listening to his soothing Southern voice without taking very much in. So rather than try to distill his philosophies for you, I’ll just come back to this lovely golden nugget of a quote. ‘To live a creative life, we must first lose our fear of being wrong.’ Being wrong in this context has so many guises – the fear of wrecking something that might’ve started out ok; making a fool out of ourselves; being criticised etc.

I have a friend who calls this process the three P’s in the order they strike – perfectionism, procrastination, paralysis. Indeedy, the fear of being criticised can mould even the most casual maker into a rigid perfectionist who just can’t complete the task. The wonderful writer Anne Lamott shouts from her inspirational instruction manual for writers, ‘Bird by Bird,‘ to scribble off a ‘shitty first draft’ as quickly as possible. The title of her book came thanks to her father, Kenneth Lamott, also a well-known writer. Anne tells the story of her brother getting in to a lather over an essay he had to write on ornithology. The boy had been researching for weeks and now it was the night before the paper was due and he just kept shuffling his pages in a blind panic, until his father stood behind him, placed his hands on the boy’s shoulders and said, ‘Bird, by bird, son.’

Other comforts today: porridge for lunch; a hero’s welcome from dogs and kids when I got home from work; hearing Van Morrisson’s Moondance as I drove home under the light of a January moon.Image result for half moon images

Any comforts you care to share? In case you are just joining us, you can add any moments of comfort in as a comment below.

Thanks as always.

xxB

 

North Star

Beth
January 14, 2017

maroonToday’s ruby beauty says this:

“Although not every choice you make is about direction, all choices will influence where you end up.” – Unknown

The Unknown element of this makes responding a bit trickier as I’ve gotten used to starting these musings with a little information on the quote giver. So a quote on direction without the directive of author … this has me thinking about what it feels like to not have a map when lost, which has conveniently conjured up an author – Cheryl Strayed of Wild fame. Just in case you missed all the fuss… Wild is a book (and film) charting the true story of Cheryl’s 1000+ mile West Coast hike from Southern California to Oregon.

I’m sure most, if not all, of you know that Cheryl’s pack was way too heavy and her boots way too small, as she had no idea of what she was getting herself into. The pack becomes a metaphor for her smothering grief at having lost her mother – the lighthouse in her bay. I’ve lost my mother (and father) which may be why I blubbered through the whole dang book. But the reason I am talking about her here is because of Cheryl’s use of quotations throughout her walk ‘back to herself.’ Along the trail, there are notebooks in boxes where walkers sign their names. I can’t remember if this was a security measure or akin to sticking a flag on a mountaintop. In any case, with her name, Cheryl would leave a quote which seemed as apt as the passing chapter titles in marking Cheryl’s state of mind. I’ve penned some of them here in the order they appear, as they are all gems and all about directions.

“The words are purposes. The words are maps.” Adrienne Rich. “I’m a slow walker, but I never walk back.” Abraham Lincoln. “Tell me, what is it you plan to do With your one wild and precious life?” – Mary Oliver.  “If your Nerve, deny you – Go above your Nerve –” Emily Dickenson. I’m picturing these quotes, written in pencil and tucked into outposts in some picturesque and isolated parts of the Wild West. How vulnerable the words themselves seem in my mind, being blown by the elements.

This is a still I took from the Bourne Legacy on TV  last night. Not PCT trail but thought it set the mood
This is a still I took from the Bourne Legacy on TV last night. Not PCT trail but thought it set the mood
This is my copy. The post-its show only some of the pages I had to come back to
This is my copy. The post-its show only some of the pages I had to come back to

Our quote today seems like one Cheryl might’ve enjoyed. She made a dramatic choice to walk away from the self-made hellhole her life had become after her mother died, and head towards a bridge in the north, auspiciously called, The Bridge of the Gods.

Every single time I carry a too heavy box or crying child on my hip or even if my shoes are just wet, I think to myself, “This’d be no bother to Cheryl.” She made a day’s discomforts grist to her mill.

I had a crappy day today. But the  compass provided by my jar of stars feels not a thousand miles from Cheryl’s step by step walk to a bigger picture.

Thanks for joining me!

xxB